When you have wronged someone, it is tough to accept your actions. To ask for forgiveness means a swallowing of pride and a humbling of self. It means reflection upon ones inner being.
When you have been wronged, it is even harder to turn the other cheek and forgive. Hate is an easy emotion to grab ahold to which can take a person to thoughts unimaginable.
I believe that the first step down the path of healing is forgiviness; not just of other people but forgiviness of self. But I think that in order to forgive, you must accept and recognize your true self.
After all the associates, allies, comrades, friends, and lovers are gone, what is left of the man in the mirror. Do you look at your reflection and see different people staring back or do you see nothing at all. Can a person even stand to look at themselves for ten minutes and answer the questions that naturally arise from human curiosity.
To have a conversation with your inner self and really listen to what is said in response is vitally important to human wellbeing. Otherwise, howelse can others listen and heed your advice if the man in the mirror cannot stand to listen to the reflection of self.
By Andre Alan